The 10 Types of Dutch Gays

Here we go. This is from me, twisted around in my head and regurgitated through the tips of my fingers. It could be hilarious; it could be pathetic. I am gonna have fun with this, because as I am typing this, I am reliving every Dutch gays characteristics. A friend asked me, how can you…

I Kissed A Girl And I …

I found out that there was a student party through my housemates; they had already bought their tickets. I was not sure if I would go. We were having drinks at our place.  The group was getting bigger and I was already getting tipsier. I was like a honeybee, the freaking worker Apis Mellifera jumping from…

Taekwondo (2016)

If you want to appreciate male beauty then this is your canvas: the torso, the legs, the chest, the thighs; everything is here. This movie is about the art of capturing male beauty in its finest hue. It is slow-paced to make you absorb the beauty. Moments of silence really gives you the boner because it…

Moonlight (Film)

If you would ask me what is this film about I would say it is partly about guardian angels who come into our lives, to save us, to make us float so we can grow, who touch us and shape our core. But it is as much about fighting to survive, to exist, to pass a…

A Very Turkish & Moroccan Affair

I would try to deconstruct MY Turkish and Moroccan experience so far in NL. I don’t intend for this to be the template or a generalization of what Turks and Moroccans are in NL; this is simply my experience. So far. It could change or not. So when you are reading this, read it with your…

Under A Strong Iraqi Rule

It is 10pm. I can’t sleep because the boner doesn’t let me. A torso starts chatting with me on Grindr. It is a good torso but it could be fake for all I know. It is hairy but not too much. It could belong to a Turk or a Moroccan. Initially the chats are far…

Homosexuality: It’s about survival – not sex

James O’Keefe validates the existence of homosexuality, from a nature’s point of view, setting in motion the crumbling down of the “against nature argument.” Using the example of his son, he is able to set sail a presentation filled with scientific research and analogies why homosexuality is not a bad thing but simply an evolutionary…

A Somali Xperience

This is not going to be good. Someone sends me a pic after chatting with him. He is discreet and says he is black. He seems legit though and we swaps numbers. He claims to be a Brit in AMS for holidays, heading back after the weekend is over. We are chatting on Thursday. On Friday…

The Ashtray & Hairy Portuguese

It has decided to start snowing in Leiden. It never snows here or at least this is what I have been told. Mostly the snow decides to blend in with the rain and create something like a sludge. Not pretty. It is around midnight and I have just wrapped up a party in my house….

Respecting The Coming Out Process

My memories are normally tainted, marred like misty windows, but this one is vivid, was and still is. I saw him for the first time and my heart stopped. Something happened within me, something that can be characterized as a crush. It was 1998 and Ricky Martin had found a way towards the living room…

Straight Acting

In Straight Acting, Angelo Pezzote (AskAngelo.com) encourages readers to go beyond limiting ideas of how “real” men should behave, and leave behind out-dated ways of being that create stumbling blocks to deeper intimacy. Drawing on his years of experience as a gay psychotherapist and advice columnist, he offers practical and thoughtful relationship strategies, with tips…

Queer Theory Gender Theory

A one-stop, no-nonsense introduction to the work of postmodern theorists like Jacques Derrida, Michael Foucault and Judith Butler that has redefined women’s, gay and gender studies. Nationally known gender activist Riki Wilchins combines straightforward prose with concrete examples from LGBT and feminist politics to guide the reader through the ideas that have forever altered our…